Heal from the past

ANONYMOUS: From someone injured by the church

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Someone sent me this post, and I felt so strongly about it, I decided to post it. These are not my words. They are the words of someone who has been hurt deeply by the church. There are many of you who can relate to this post, and I pray it blesses you. … Though […]

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Feeling Unloved and Unseen? Two ways to be prayed for.

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I can’t tell you how many times I’ve received correspondence like this: I’m sure you hear it every day, all day, how your personal prayers seem to be just what we need for that particular time or season in someone’s life. & I am no different on this. This last year & 1/2 has been […]

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CNN interview about #MeToo

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I’m grateful for the opportunity to talk with Carol Costello of Across American on CNN where we talked about #metoo and #churchtoo. For a helpful resource page for pastors and ministry leaders, click here. And for more information about the #Forsuchatimeasthis movement, go here.

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VIDEO: Abuse, Jesus and Church

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Here is a compilation video of portions of the talk I gave at the #forsuchatimeasthis rally. You can read the entire transcript here. It is my sincere prayer that the church would become both good shepherds and good samaritans. For a beautifully written piece about The Good Samaritan and abuse victims, read Kimi Harris’ excellent piece […]

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The Abused: The Church Must Do Better

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This is the speech I gave today at the For Such a Time as This rally. There is an unspoken and seldom articulated crisis within the SBC (Southern Baptist Convention) and the wider circles of the evangelical church. In the sunset of the attractional church model, we have succeeded in wooing many through our front […]

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Happy National Day of Prayer

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On this National Day of Prayer, what better way to celebrate than to be prayed for? If you feel broken and needy and maybe even have a hard time asking others to pray for you, here’s a safe way to actually be prayed for every day this year. To do that, go here:   MY […]

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Sexual Abuse and Porn – A Correlation

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I’ve been meaning to write this post a long time, but as you can imagine, it’s not exactly the easiest can of worms to open. I’ll start with my own story, a painful one to admit, told stark on the page of my memoir, Thin Places. Early on, my father dulls me to the dangers […]

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Are You Fatherless? That time #thisisus Triggered Me

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When Jack died on This is Us this week, I didn’t expect to tear up. Not that I’m an emotionless robot, but it’s been 40 years of fatherlessness for me, and I expected to be ho hum during the episode. But the tears erupted. And I once again knew this: you never outgrow your need […]

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Jesus loved me when…

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I’ve been thinking a lot about my brokenness lately, how flawed I am, how confused and difficult I’ve been in the past, how there have been far too many times I’ve been dramatic in my life. I am far too hard on myself. My friends say so. My husband and kids, too. I introspect. And […]

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You’re not Doomed

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Recent studies highlight the effects of childhood trauma, abuse, neglect and sexual abuse on people long after they experienced the events. Long into adulthood, childhood victims share some common traits: Prone to develop depression Cognitive distortion (seeing the world as a dangerous place) Tendency to entertain suicide Anxiety disorders Physical illness Difficulty in relationships Control […]

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