"We are all sinners," people post when a sexual predator, who happens to be a Christian leader, is outed. Some other frustrating (albeit well intentioned, perhaps?) responses: "Let's not cast the first stone." "Gossip is a sin, so by posting or warning, you are...
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The Sexy Wife I Cannot Be
(I recently found out this post is no longer available on the site I originally wrote it for, so I'm posting it here for the sake of those who need it. This post is the impetus for writing Not Marked: Finding Hope and Healing after Sexual Abuse. And it is birthed in...
When we protect perpetrators, we pervert the gospel
Prayer appreciated again. Heart is heavy. And yet I refuse to capitulate. I will shout it: sexual abuse is soul-killing and the church has for far too long kept it hushed, re-victimizing victims and protecting perpetrators under the guise of cheap grace, while...
Sex is Scary for Sexual Abuse Victims
This is the post that started me down the path to write Not Marked: Finding Hope and Healing after Sexual Abuse. It first appeared on Deeper Story. ... I sat in the audience, taking notes, my heart sinking deeper into itself. Failure hollered so loudly I...
Why Affection is Hard for Sexual Abuse Victims
I have a picture of my cat Scout here for a reason. She is a typical feline, aloof, set apart. She can take or leave my affection. (According to the picture, she would rather ponder nature and read the ESV Bible). Her indifference makes me want to pursue and pet her....