Today I’m privileged to have Anita Lustrea chatting with me about her book, What Women Tell Me: Finding Freedom from the Secrets We Keep.
I met Anita on her radio broadcast Moody Midday Connection and instantly LOVED her. She’s honest, compelling, interested, and passionate about her job as a radio host. I’m so thankful to have the opportunity to interview her. She’s been gracious enough to offer two books to blog readers. To be entered to win a free copy, please comment on this post. Thanks! And now, to Anita.
What listener secret most surprised you?
I suppose the secret itself didn’t surprise me, but the volume of women that I heard from who struggle with loneliness really surprised me.
How have you seen healing happen as a result of people sharing their secrets?
Wherever there are secrets there is darkness. Healing can never begin until light enters the picture. And a secret can’t come into the light unless there is another person present to share it with. Probably the biggest way I’ve seen healing happen is through the avenue of relationships. Once the secret is shared it is as if a burden rolls of the back of the secret keeper. As relationships go deeper there is mutual sharing, mutual praying and caring, and mutual burden bearing.
Why do people keep secrets?
We think we are all alone, that no one else is in our same situation. And we believe that if others really knew, I mean really had a clue about our secrets they’d never want to be in relationship with us. In fact we think they’d turn tail and run for the hills. We remain paralyzed and we live a lie.
What compels them to share?
Often it ‘s because crisis enters the picture. Sometimes the unexpected comes and we can no longer keep our secret. That’s my own story. I uncovered pornography in my home and I kept that secret for as long as I could. But that discovery set a series of events into motion eventually leading me to tell my secret.
What’s the most important thing you’ve learned about God as a radio host?
I’ve learned about the kindness of God. I know he loved me, but his kindness has overflowed to me. He put me, someone with no formal training, in a spot where I get to talk to experts in their field day in and day out. I feel like I’m in the classroom every day. I get to ask questions about the junk in my own life and thankfully the spillover helps others as well. I’ve learned that I don’t have to be perfect. I don’t have to know it all, and he shows up every day and sits right alongside me.