This week I’m answering some difficult questions put forth by two readers.
1) How over time did you tell your children about your past? Was there a certain amount of knowledge you passed along as the children grew up or did you wait for a “teachable moment” to share pieces over the years? I don’t have children yet so for me I want to have my husband and I on the same page as to the willingness to not hide the past (especially since the abuse was from a family member who is still actively accepted by some of our family). So for me it’s about knowledge for the future while my friend has several young children 8, 10 & 11 who she is trying to determine how and when to share. Especially with her daughters as a way to make them aware of their surroundings and the people around them.