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When Facebook Friends Fight
I read this post last Spring and asked the author if I could feature it here as The Seven Deadly Friendships released. The person agreed as long as I used a pseudonym. So this helpful post is written by Benjamin Tatian. Benjamin titled it: Judgment, Conflict...
Hard Friendships: When to Stay
This is a guest post by Virginia Garrett originally title The Friend You Need to Hang on to. I loved it so much in the Spring that I asked her if I could repost it here with her permission. She said YES. It relates so beautifully to my upcoming book The Seven Deadly...
Laughter
I can attest that one person's few minutes of predatory behavior does harm someone else--for years. Some of you have questioned whether I've healed, and some have told me to move on. Others have judged me for not coming forward immediately (not knowing that I did)....
Be Wise about Repentant Predators
We've possibly grown numb to the cavalcade of abuse allegations both within and outside the church. Recently the Grand Jury investigation in Pennsylvania went public. Willow Creek is reeling in the aftermath of allegations against its founder, Bill Hybels. A well...
ANONYMOUS: From someone injured by the church
Someone sent me this post, and I felt so strongly about it, I decided to post it. These are not my words. They are the words of someone who has been hurt deeply by the church. There are many of you who can relate to this post, and I pray it blesses you. ... Though I...
Day of Reckoning
Consider these definitions of Day of Reckoning: If someone talks about the day of reckoning, they mean a day or time in the future when people will be forced to deal with an unpleasant situation which they have avoided until now. via COBUILD Advanced English...
Pray Every Day SPECIAL EDITION: Willow Creek
My heart has broken over the past few months for the Willow Creek congregation. I cannot imagine the stress, grief, and corporate pain they're walking through. As a sexual abuse survivor, I can step into the shoes of those who have experienced harassment, and I have...
Drop by Drop: how justice for abuse victims becomes a mighty river
This morning on my way to work out, I listened to an NPR story of a woman who is recovering from a stroke. She used to be in the US military in Afghanistan, and, while there, engaged with local people. She found poetry to be a beautiful entry point for understanding...
Those Who Knew and Said Nothing Are Culpable
Last night I watched the Paterno movie (HBO films). While it is not a documentary, the film agonizes the watcher with every single side of the sexual abuse "debate" especially when it comes to institutional protectionism. Here's the trailer: The entire movie grieved...
Poop Brownies and Predators
"We are all sinners," people post when a sexual predator, who happens to be a Christian leader, is outed. Some other frustrating (albeit well intentioned, perhaps?) responses: "Let's not cast the first stone." "Gossip is a sin, so by posting or warning, you are...
From How To to Me Too
At the SoCal Christian writers conference, I had a conversation with a fellow writer. Something she said resonated with me. "We used to write how to books." For so long our Christian living titles populating Christian bookstore shelves were didactic. How to be a...
Restory: The Final Episode
Today is the final episode of the Restory Show. Cue sadness! For many reasons, I felt like this season of interview podcasting has come to an end for me, particularly since the great majority of the stories were ones I personally vetted, and I felt like I could no...