ANONYMOUS: From someone injured by the church

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Someone sent me this post, and I felt so strongly about it, I decided to post it. These are not my words. They are the words of someone who has been hurt deeply by the church. There are many of you who can relate to this post, and I pray it blesses you. … Though […]

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Day of Reckoning


Consider these definitions of Day of Reckoning: If someone talks about the day of reckoning, they mean a day or time in the future when people will be forced to deal with an unpleasant situation which they have avoided until now. via COBUILD Advanced English Dictionary. Copyright © HarperCollins Publishers Noun: A time when the effects of one’s past mistakes or misdeeds catch up with one. […]

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Drop by Drop: how justice for abuse victims becomes a mighty river


This morning on my way to work out, I listened to an NPR story of a woman who is recovering from a stroke. She used to be in the US military in Afghanistan, and, while there, engaged with local people. She found poetry to be a beautiful entry point for understanding and conversation. Post-stroke, she […]

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Those Who Knew and Said Nothing Are Culpable


Last night I watched the Paterno movie (HBO films). While it is not a documentary, the film agonizes the watcher with every single side of the sexual abuse “debate” especially when it comes to institutional protectionism. Here’s the trailer: The entire movie grieved me, triggered me, saddened me. I see the bravery of the victim […]

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Poop Brownies and Predators


“We are all sinners,” people post when a sexual predator, who happens to be a Christian leader, is outed. Some other frustrating (albeit well intentioned, perhaps?) responses: “Let’s not cast the first stone.” “Gossip is a sin, so by posting or warning, you are gossiping.” “Judge not lest you be judged.” “Women should expect harassment […]

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From How To to Me Too


At the SoCal Christian writers conference, I had a conversation with a fellow writer. Something she said resonated with me. “We used to write how to books.” For so long our Christian living titles populating Christian bookstore shelves were didactic. How to be a better Christian–seven easy steps. Formulas for parenting. Tactics to have a […]

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Feeling Unloved and Unseen? Two ways to be prayed for.


I can’t tell you how many times I’ve received correspondence like this: I’m sure you hear it every day, all day, how your personal prayers seem to be just what we need for that particular time or season in someone’s life. & I am no different on this. This last year & 1/2 has been […]

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CNN interview about #MeToo


I’m grateful for the opportunity to talk with Carol Costello of Across American on CNN where we talked about #metoo and #churchtoo. For a helpful resource page for pastors and ministry leaders, click here. And for more information about the #Forsuchatimeasthis movement, go here.

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VIDEO: Abuse, Jesus and Church


Here is a compilation video of portions of the talk I gave at the #forsuchatimeasthis rally. You can read the entire transcript here. It is my sincere prayer that the church would become both good shepherds and good samaritans. For a beautifully written piece about The Good Samaritan and abuse victims, read Kimi Harris’ excellent piece […]

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The Abused: The Church Must Do Better

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This is the speech I gave today at the For Such a Time as This rally. There is an unspoken and seldom articulated crisis within the SBC (Southern Baptist Convention) and the wider circles of the evangelical church. In the sunset of the attractional church model, we have succeeded in wooing many through our front […]

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