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Broken by past sexual abuse? I hear you. I see you. I understand. I've walked this shard-laden journey too. And I've learned a lot about the healing journey. (I still struggle, though. I don't want you to think I've "arrived.") If you're struggling to make sense of...
When We Neglect the Millstone We Cast Stones at Survivors
"Ministries that cover up sexual abuse are not ministries at all. Their silence allows evil to thrive. They do not represent Jesus." I posted this quote recently, and I received many positive comments. But one of the comments put a burr in my saddle. The person wrote:...
Restory Show Resurrect: Jules Woodson
Although I've stopped production of the Restory Show, from time to time I will bring you interviews as God brings amazing people and their stories my way. Today's bonus episode features one of those exceptional people and stories--sexual abuse victim advocate Jules...
I believe you
Let’s not be flippant with someone else’s trauma. I thought I was *fine* when I returned to the locale of my yearlong rapes (I was 5 when it happened, went there over 45 years later). I smiled in pictures. Thanked God for the victory. One hour later I could NOT STOP...
Vulnerability after a Friend Breakup
Yesterday my 36th book released, The Seven Deadly Friendships, and it has popsicles on the cover: Maybe you've felt like one of those popsicles. That someone has hurt you. They've eaten away at your joy, and snapped your heart in two. I've certainly experienced that....
The Why
TODAY, my 36th book releases. It's called The Seven Deadly Friendships. Way back when, well, you know the story--in the popsicle stains of childhood, I experienced some difficult relationships. Those raising me had some interesting tendencies. Predatory ones....
When Facebook Friends Fight
I read this post last Spring and asked the author if I could feature it here as The Seven Deadly Friendships released. The person agreed as long as I used a pseudonym. So this helpful post is written by Benjamin Tatian. Benjamin titled it: Judgment, Conflict...
Hard Friendships: When to Stay
This is a guest post by Virginia Garrett originally title The Friend You Need to Hang on to. I loved it so much in the Spring that I asked her if I could repost it here with her permission. She said YES. It relates so beautifully to my upcoming book The Seven Deadly...
Laughter
I can attest that one person's few minutes of predatory behavior does harm someone else--for years. Some of you have questioned whether I've healed, and some have told me to move on. Others have judged me for not coming forward immediately (not knowing that I did)....
Be Wise about Repentant Predators
We've possibly grown numb to the cavalcade of abuse allegations both within and outside the church. Recently the Grand Jury investigation in Pennsylvania went public. Willow Creek is reeling in the aftermath of allegations against its founder, Bill Hybels. A well...
ANONYMOUS: From someone injured by the church
Someone sent me this post, and I felt so strongly about it, I decided to post it. These are not my words. They are the words of someone who has been hurt deeply by the church. There are many of you who can relate to this post, and I pray it blesses you. ... Though I...
Day of Reckoning
Consider these definitions of Day of Reckoning: If someone talks about the day of reckoning, they mean a day or time in the future when people will be forced to deal with an unpleasant situation which they have avoided until now. via COBUILD Advanced English...