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Maximizing The Surface Beverly Hills Style

26 Comments 15 April 2011

A bit ago, I flipped through the channels, landing on Dr. 90210, a reality series about this Beverly Hills plastic surgeon and his patients.

At first it intrigued me. I’ve never been one to consider plastic surgery unless my face got disfigured or something equally tragic. So it felt like looking into another world. (But knowing that there’s a stat out there about Dallas women getting the most augmentations, I know I’m just not *seeing* that world here.)

The show, as it wore on, drained the joy out of me. Perfectly beautiful women didn’t feel enough. Even their boyfriends/fiances/husbands were excited about the possibilities for them. One woman, because she was learning how to be a bail bondswoman, had to relearn how to shoot because her new chest got in the way.

She was particularly tragic, in my opinion. Her fiance asked her to consider doing less, not more. He wanted her to look “classy” not trampish. When the bandages were taken off, she started crying. She got mad at him. “I wanted them bigger,” she cried. But, as nature has it, they did “grow” a bit and she was happy.

What kind of culture do we live in that demands women go under the knife (yep, they show a bit of that), to have a silicon implant squished inside? How is it that the world is in need of good medicine, great drinking water, food and shelter, and we obsess over the things we normally couldn’t change? Whatever happened to contentment?

I can’t tell you how weird the struggle’s been for me in America about how I look. In France, it was an afterthought. In America, I am bombarded with images of perfect women with flawless skin, nary a fat cell in sight. It makes me feel less. And I’ve bought into it.

Oh dear God.

It’s not what’s on the outside that lasts. It’s not. It’s the gentle and quiet spirit God desires. That’s what will last after our perfectly sculpted bodies lie in the ground. So why do we fret? Why bathe in discontent? Why not do everything we can do to prepare our souls for greatness?

In France, it was easy to see spiritual darkness. The heaviness was palpable. In America, darkness is dressed up, fixed up, beautified. It’s disguised as bodily, financial perfection. It’s just as dark, folks, yet far more enticing. It impoverishes our souls, but we don’t care.

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  • rashid

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  • http://amylsullivan.blogspot.com/ Amy Sullivan

    Wow, your last paragraph really hit me. Yes, our darkness is just as dark, but it’s so darn pretty.

    • Anonymous

      agreed.

    • Anonymous

      agreed.

    • Anonymous

      agreed.

  • http://www.facebook.com/srvnGod Rev. Melinda C. McCray

    I weigh 304 pounds. I have been going to Curves to lose weight because my health issues are worse with weight. I lost 6 inches and could not lose anymore because I have sleep apnea. So I went to the doc and got a new mask to begin using my machine like I should. I fill myself up with food because I am addicted. Some strange part of me knows it is to hide what I am feeling, and the beautiful woman I was hiding to prevent anyone from looking at me sexually. I, on the other hand am so insecure that I try to look just right. Find myself wanting to be attractive. How can these two mindsets live together? Darkness. Praise God for the light that dispels it. It is so very true that darkness can disguise itself as an angel of light. I pray women would realize their true beauty lies within a Savior. Today I went to volunteer at the local Pregnancy Crisis Center. The Director said I have a kind and gentle spirit. She said there is an aroma of Christ. I believe you will find healing here, and that you will be an asset to other women finding theirs. I never felt more beautiful in all my life. I am so filled with joy by that, that my eyes are full of tears. That is redemption. That is beautiful.

    • Anonymous

      Melinda, as you say, the deeper question lies in your fear of looking beautiful. Many who go through this have been sexually abused. If this is true for you, it may be helpful to deal with the core issue first.

    • Anonymous

      Melinda, as you say, the deeper question lies in your fear of looking beautiful. Many who go through this have been sexually abused. If this is true for you, it may be helpful to deal with the core issue first.

    • Anonymous

      Melinda, as you say, the deeper question lies in your fear of looking beautiful. Many who go through this have been sexually abused. If this is true for you, it may be helpful to deal with the core issue first.

  • Nina

    Your last paragraph made me think of funerals in America–the trouble we go to in order to make the dead person look like a beautiful, healthy, living person who is only asleep. That had always seemed a little creepy to me, but even creepier is the way we go to all ends to perfect our outer selves to the neglect of our suffering souls. (And how we so easily respond to others’ outer beauty, letting the outer beauty mislead us into thinking the inner self is also beautiful, perfect, complete.)

    • Anonymous

      I agree, it seems creepy.

    • Anonymous

      I agree, it seems creepy.

    • Anonymous

      I agree, it seems creepy.

  • http://profiles.google.com/pollywogcreekporch Patricia Hunter

    I’m no longer surprised by the dark and twisted values of a lost world, but our contemporary Christian culture sometimes seems to promote the same beautiful-on-the-outside-is-important message, as well. My daughter and I recently discussed our observation that “Christian” videos seem to focus on the beautiful people in the audience, and the majority of Christian performing artists are clearly more beautiful than a woman know who is an amazing, gifted musician whose talents are overlooked. Even among Christians, young and beautiful will open doors that older and not-so-beautiful do not.

    • Anonymous

      Very astute observation!

    • Anonymous

      Very astute observation!

    • Anonymous

      Very astute observation!

  • aurora

    There was just a segment on the Today show about the increased number of men who are having plastic surgery. They’re not immune to The Lie either. Very sad.

    • Anonymous

      wow

    • Anonymous

      wow

    • Anonymous

      wow

  • http://twitter.com/mycupofgrace Danaye Taylor

    Mary, as someone who has battled her weight since age 7 due to health issues and continues to battle it after having an additional 100lb weight gain during thyroid cancer treatments I can so empathize with you about the feeling of less. Having my father tell me when I was younger that he had to love me because I was his daughter but he couldn’t enjoy loving me because I was fat certainly did nothing to help my situation and then was confirmed time and time again by classmates to the point of being miserable & physically sick when I had to go to school..Here I am at age 39 and I’m just starting too finally have some breath through’s with God to freedom from rejection. I have a book about 1/2 to 3/4 or the way done about it and another life journal I work on when I can handle all the pain and disappointments I lived through. One way I am blessed is that God provided me a man made of steele that could take all the things I was unable to accept from him and be patient enough until I started learning what I was doing to him and us by continuing to believe the lies of everyone else instead of the truth God and my wonderful husband was providing me.

    Some how we women need to be a support system for each other so that we can stop this madness of not realizing we are enough, we are exactly what God wants us to be, a work in progress with Him as the great physician. I know there are some professions that will not even hire women unless they are willing to go under the knife immediately, I don’t see that as God’s will for them to alter their appearance for a job/career that will not be able to last a lifetime and bring God the Glory. Maybe I’m wrong in this assessment since we each have to work to find God’s Will but I just feel so bad that so many girls and women are still fighting this and yet the majority of us still can’t see WE ARE ENOUGH FOR THE ONE THAT MATTERS!

    I pray the new Ministry I have started and the books I am working on as well as the blog I am getting ready to re-launch will be able to make this one of the issues we tackle and can bring God so much Glory by having women set free from this bondage.

    Thank you for taking this subject on, I hope you have a blessed weekend.

    Danay’e Taylor
    http://www.mycupofgraceministries.com

    • Anonymous

      Danaye, I agree. We need to support each other in creating a different worldview than the culture.

    • Anonymous

      Danaye, I agree. We need to support each other in creating a different worldview than the culture.

    • Anonymous

      Danaye, I agree. We need to support each other in creating a different worldview than the culture.

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