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Marketing Secret: Choose small, tend large

33 Comments 07 August 2012

A few years ago, I started my journey of learning about marketing. As an author, I knew I could write words, create books, and churn out content. What I couldn’t do was sell books. So I dove headlong into marketing–reading tons of books, consulting with experts, and trying a lot of ideas the failed.

As I walked through that process, I sensed the Lord say that He wasn’t going to allow me to follow a formula. Why? Because if the formula worked, I’d be prone to say, “Hey, this program worked, so you should try it too.” No, He wanted to get the glory for whatever happened in my writing career.

Of course God can work any way He pleases, but with me, I’ve learned I often have to trust more in my relationship with Him than in a list of marketing must do-s.

So the other week in the garden, I realized a new truth that fits with the last statement perfectly. Choose small, tend large.

What I tend to do: choose large, tend small.

Out of fear and not really trusting God, I ran to every method known to man (and woman), grabbing at all sorts of formulas. I added tons to my plate, and then I tended everything poorly. No wonder I failed! No wonder I felt defeated! I traded focus for doing way too much stuff.

Cut to this year and the lessons God’s been teaching me. Less is more. Paring away nearly everything in my life brings great results.

In short, I’m choosing small (books & speaking) and finally, finally, finally tending large. I have time now to launch my next book. I can think straight and write better books. I can work on my speaking platform.

So that’s my marketing “secret.”

This is my cautionary tale, meant to help you NOT do what I did. Take some time today to ask yourself what you really want to do with marketing. Ask God. Slow down. Then tend large.

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What have been your frustrations with marketing? Have you ever been discouraged? What have you done well? (I’d love to learn from you!)

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  • http://girlmeetspaper.com Jane Graham

    Oh, boy. I feel like I need a therapy session now. Or a few weeks of face-on-the-carpet-prayer. Thanks for this, Mary. Your bullet points are ones I’ll be spending some time with, for sure.

  • Kelley

    Extremely helful … focusing. Thank you.

  • Amaris

    Every since I first read those words “choose small, tend large,” that phrase has been repeating over and over in my head. I believe God has been speaking to me in a similar way. I have just realized (thanks to His intervention) that I have been believing a lie: In order to be successful, I have to be constantly achieving more, adding more to my plate, doing more. The truth is, that was mostly my way of silencing the mean voices in my head! Now I am trying to seek Him and find out what it is He really wants me to concentrate on – “tend large” – in this season.

    Thanks again, Mary!

    • http://www.marydemuth.com Mary DeMuth

      So beautifully put. I’m glad God is confirming His path for you!

  • http://youaremygirls.com/ Jennifer Camp

    I love your encouragement to trust in Him, above all, knowing His good plan is better than any other “advice” out there. Thank you, Mary.

  • http://www.mirrorministries.org Daphne Delay

    Awesome advice :) thanks!!

  • http://www.thomasumstattd.com Thomas Umstattd

    Great Post! These insights are right on. Pruning is so hard… but so worth it.

  • alwaysalleluia

    So much hard earned wisdom here, Mary. This speaks to me this season, as I am shifting gears on a couple of things and trying to follow a new direction. Thank you for this timely piece. I’ll be chewing on this al day. ;)

    • http://www.marydemuth.com Mary DeMuth

      Chew away!

  • http://www.facebook.com/jenniferowhite Jennifer Odom White

    Mary – you are speaking LOUD and CLEAR to me. I’m so grateful for your post today because I know it’s God’s heart for me. Thank you.

  • Sharla Fritz

    Great post Mary! Right now I am also struggling against striving for the trophies of success. Last year I found out the problem with following experts. I followed the instructions on how to build a better blog, but ended up with writing that didn’t sound like me at all.

    • http://www.marydemuth.com Mary DeMuth

      Ah, yes, i’ve been there. Be all you, not what experts tell you to be.

  • http://twitter.com/abbysnews Abby Van Wormer

    i totally get this! sometimes i feel like when we are ‘marketing’ something the way that everyone thinks we should, we are trying too hard to force something that shouldn’t be forced.

    i like your marketing secret. i think that knowing God and knowing that He cares about your message just as much as you do, it takes a lot of the pressure off. i think that if we do our best and let Him take care of the rest, that will give us room to breathe.

    one of the hard things is when other people don’t see things this way and feel we need to rely on ourselves more than God. they may not say that out loud, but they say it in other ways. but i know that not everyone sees things the same way, but we just have to try to not worry about that and do what we know in our heart we should do.

  • http://www.danapittman.com/ Dana Pittman

    I believe this post deals much more with the pulse (heart) of what we do. It will then make the task of sharing with the world much easier. Thank you!

    • http://www.marydemuth.com Mary DeMuth

      Good word. What’s inside us eventually comes out.

  • http://twitter.com/lifesurrendered Michele-Lyn

    I love this post! It’s because of your heart that I love your writing. This just helps me breath in a sigh of relief and cast my care… Thank you :) ” I’ve learned I often have to trust more in my relationship with Him than in a list of marketing must do-s.” Love it!

  • http://www.love-laugh-learn.com/ Deanna

    I am learning to fight against my flesh that wants to be “everything” that God hasn’t called me to be!

    I do enjoy me some marketing and pr (my professional background), but NONE of it can replace a God-breathed-anointing and leading on our call.

    • http://www.marydemuth.com Mary DeMuth

      Amen, so true, Deanna. It’s not wrong to market of use your skills wisely. But it’s even more important to lean into Jesus.

  • http://twitter.com/KristenLEvensen KristenLeighEvensen

    My biggest stumbling block is trying to follow by-the-book the trends and patterns of already-successful people. Everyone is different. No two people’s paths are alike. That is the lesson I very quickly learned! God has a unique path for each of us. And like you said, Mary, it’s to point to HIM and not us. I love that truth. Thanks!

    • http://www.marydemuth.com Mary DeMuth

      So true. I got into a lot of stress and trouble when I followed gurus and forgot to listen to the voice of Jesus.

  • http://2sweetthings.blogspot.com Mandy

    Love this post, and am so thankful to be part of the Everything Launch Team and gleaning from you, Mary! This is a lesson that I’m right in the middle of learning. God really hit me hard with the fact that ‘success’ was becoming an idol in my life and was really getting in the way of actually HUMBLY persuing the things He wants me to do. I realized that in laying down the desire to have big and genuinely seek after His heart and seek to glorify Him in everything that I do, that success is happening more readily. And it’s true success, definitely not about me but rather about being able to point everything in my life to Him and give Him glory. Thank you for living to point to Him and being so available to help others find that same path… He is my everything!

    • http://twitter.com/KristenLEvensen KristenLeighEvensen

      Mandy, it is so easy for success to become an idol. I have definitely felt that happening in my own life, and I want to nip it in the bud! Thank you for being real. It’s always comforting knowing I’m never alone.

    • http://www.marydemuth.com Mary DeMuth

      Success is a narcotic. You need more and more and more of it to feel happy. Which is why it’s so important to reorient our hearts toward Jesus.

  • Corinne Baur

    Good stuff, Mary. A great reminder that we aren’t meant to and can’t do everything. I feel so overwhelmed by the whole marketing thing. I like to say marketing my book was harder than writing it (and writing it was the hardest thing I have ever done!) It is so hard to know which paths to choose, who to listen to, where to devote your time. I just want to write, coach, encourage and help people find God through running. It feels like I am being pulled in so many different directions in the book marketing thing. I love the concept “choose small, tend large”. I think that is something I can do. :)

    • http://www.marydemuth.com Mary DeMuth

      I’m glad. Yes, you can do it. And the best thing I’ve found is to silence the marketing guru voices and listen to One voice.

  • http://www.tammyhelfrich.com/ Tammy Helfrich

    Thank you for this! I am learning this lesson as well. We always want the large, but tend to forget the small. For me, it’s about learning that I can impact change right where I am. It doesn’t have to be a huge, large message like we tend to think. Great post, Mary!

    • http://www.marydemuth.com Mary DeMuth

      Agreed, Tammy. My favorite ministry is with a small group of high school girls.

  • http://www.BillintheBlank.com/ Bill Blankschaen

    I had reached some of the same conclusions myself on a number of fronts even this morning. Great to hear someone down the road aways call back with confirmation that I should discard some of that baggage and focus on what really matters.
    Thanks, Mary!

    • http://www.marydemuth.com Mary DeMuth

      Amen Bill. Keep at it. I have found so much freedom in letting go (particularly of others expectations or even my own!)

  • Dianne

    Yet again, another timely post. It doesn’t really have to do with marketing so much as my general approach to life. I am probably a little ADD; at best I’m unfocused. I try to tell myself it’s okay to have lots of interests and yet I can relate to your feeling of trying to do it all. I haven’t been writing as much because I’ve been dabbling much in art . . . and even there, I can’t focus on one thing. Hence a growing collection of art supplies without much to show for it. The thought of choosing small & tending large appeals to me, but at the same time, it scares me. And yet I recognize that I am probably not going to be happy as long as I’m trying to grasp so many things. And I know that doing so keeps me from doing my best at any one thing.

    • http://www.marydemuth.com Mary DeMuth

      I think creative people deal with this a lot because we don’t want to be hemmed in. But I have found so much joy in focus!

      • rita schulte

        Mary this was so timely for me. I love the idea of choose small tend large. I have been feeling a bit overwhelmed lately with the whole marketing, platform stuff too—working so hard to build a base for the book and my show. it’s easy to burnout. I especially like what you said about nurture what you have. If we do that and are faithful, God will accomplish his purposes in his time. It’s really all about him.

        • Ruthie Lewis

          I agree, Rita

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