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I don’t want to be a celebrity

38 Comments 21 March 2012

Last week, I read Rachel Held Evans’ post entitled “Scattered Thoughts on my life in the Christian Industry.” She said a great many things, but this resonated with me the most:

I sit in the green room, fidgeting with my water bottle and trying not to make eye contact with the famous preacher whose pictures line the walls. I wonder if they’re expecting someone like him today, and I wonder if I’ll ever be able to speak in front of a room full of people without getting pee-in-my-pants nervous about it, without feeling out-of-place.

We do live in an era of Christian celebrity, don’t we? Used to be we’d personally think our own pastor was a star just because he visited us in the hospital, or his sermon blessed us that week. But with the onset of megapastors and megaministries, sometimes the simplicity of the gospel gets drowned out.

And here I sit teetering in the midst of it all. As one who writes books.

I remember teaching on the spiritual life of the writer for Mount Hermon and ACFW. In it, I shared this important quote from Michael Card’s book, Scribbling in the Sand: “Never cease praying that you will not become a star or celebrity. Donald Davidson has said, ‘Our culture places an absolute premium on various kinds of stardom. This degrades and impoverishes ordinary life, ordinary work, ordinary experience.’”

So I choose to remember again that the last will be first and the first, last. I choose to remember that we see Jesus in the distressing disguise of the poor, not in the celebrity handshake of the star. Why is it that I’m more excited when I meet a Christian celebrity than I am interacting with ordinary folks? It’s sad to me that my heart bends this way.

My comment to Rachel in her post was as follows:

I understand. And I remember way back when, back in the day when I was bright eyed and hopeful that a publisher would notice my words and take a chance. During that time, God clearly said to me, “Mary, you have survived many trials. But will you withstand the trial of notoriety?” That question keeps me humble today. But I see the danger lurking, and I ask my prayer team to please, please, please tell me if I ever think I’m “all that.”

Keep near to the least of these and the still small voice, and all will be well.

I’m praying about releasing those talks on the spiritual life of the writer in the future. Perhaps it might interest you. Or not. But my passion for this topic isn’t going away any time soon.

Q4u:

What about you? What’s the problem with Christian celebrity? Why do we gravitate toward the spectacular? What advice would you give me to not succumb to fame’s lure?

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  • Gina Holmes

    Most authors don’t have to worry too much about celebrity. People rarely recognize us and I’ve found they’re more interested in our words than us anyway. What strikes me the strangest is when someone assumes their celebrity. I’ll never forget asking someone for a picture at a conference and she said, “Oh, sure, I always have time for my fans.” I wasn’t a fan, just a friend. Another instance a Christian teacher started his program with, I know you all are a little star struck and went on about his notoriety and how we needed to get it out of our heads so he could teach us from God’s word. I know I wasn’t the only one thinking, um… no….

  • http://www.godsabsolutelove.com/ Patricia Zell

    Let’s keep the focus of our thoughts, words, and actions on God’s absolute love and we won’t have to worry about celebrity.

    • http://www.marydemuth.com Mary DeMuth

       Yes, that’s a great place to dwell.

  • http://ineveryplace.blogspot.com/ Kim L. Abernethy

    Because I know me and know how human I am, I pray that I will gauge any recognition by the mere fact that God is the author and giver of all things! Oh to remember that always! 
    Love your heart and candid awe in this post, Mary. You said it well. “Stay close to the least of these and to that still small voice.” No better advice for any of us. It gives us a pulse point for when the lights are too bright and we find ourselves floating away. Thanks!

    • http://www.marydemuth.com Mary DeMuth

       Yes, Oh to remember that always.

  • Linda

    When I led a parent group to change things in the schools and we held a meeting to view a new movie to present.  I was up front and had grown-ups raising their hand, waiting for me to let them talk.  It was so humbling.  Yet God honored my work. 

    I guess, try to keep your eyes on Who put you where you are and stay humble. 

    • http://www.marydemuth.com Mary DeMuth

       Yes, good reminder, Linda.

  • Linda

    When I led a parent group to change things in the schools and we held a meeting to view a new movie to present.  I was up front and had grown-ups raising their hand, waiting for me to let them talk.  It was so humbling.  Yet God honored my work. 

    I guess, try to keep your eyes on Who put you where you are and stay humble. 

  • Gina

    The thing that scares me is that too many Christians look to Christian celebrities to tell them what to think. To their credit, few of the Christian celebrities I’ve known have ever sought such a position. But there are those who expect it of them — and then  on the flip side, if their idol says something that really goes against the grain for them, they act angry, disappointed, even betrayed. It’s scary, scary stuff.

    • http://www.marydemuth.com Mary DeMuth

       Yeah, the pedestal is a blessing and a curse. Well said.

  • Leslie

    A famous quote [probably butchered by me] “Everybody puts their pants on one leg at a time…no matter how famous they are.”

    • http://www.marydemuth.com Mary DeMuth

       So true!

  • BJ Robinson

    This one brought tears to my eyes. I thank God that I didn’t become a best-selling author years ago when I first tried writing books, for I still had many lessons in life yet to learn. He knew that, and He knew what was best for me. I write out my heartfelt thanks in the words I pen to honor Him.

    • http://www.marydemuth.com Mary DeMuth

       I do the exact same thing. What a Me Monster I’d be if my first book went crazy.

  • Raj Paulus

    The day before I received an email from my Lit Agent, telling me officially that he’ll take me on, I was going for my dreaded morning run. The only part about running that I love is my chance to listen to music, and the song that helped me up my first hill that morning was by LeCrae: “I could play the background…” and I wrote the words on my heart that morning and any time my heart or head start to swell out of proportion when someone says, “You’re a great writer” or “I love your writing” etc. I listen to the song to put myself in check! Enjoy: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LHnZRZiCYHE

    • http://www.marydemuth.com Mary DeMuth

       That is a great song! Thanks for sharing. Love the lyrics!

  • http://www.faithbogdan.com/ Faith Bogdan

    I’m as obscure as one can be, and yet Pat Boone once warmly answered my email, addressing me by name in the body of the letter. I’ve received other such personal responses from “stars” and it leaves me only hoping I’d remain that approachable if I ever reached those heights. Of course, there are priorities. God bless the person that at least understands the value of a heart-felt standard reply.

    • http://www.marydemuth.com Mary DeMuth

       That’s sweet that Pat did that!

  • Winter

    Mary, thought provoking and humbling. Despite only having a small publishing credit to my name, it’s a bit unnerving for me when people learn I’m actually published. They do treat me like a star, and I don’t know how to react. I get those tingles of thrill at being noticed like that, but there’s the side of me screaming to stay humble and remember not to let it get to my head, I didn’t make it alone on this path. I’m glad you wrote this post, it will be my reminder I’m still an ordinary person, just doing something I love.

    • http://www.marydemuth.com Mary DeMuth

       Yeah, I’m the same way. I’m very, very ordinary.

  • http://hopeofglory.typepad.com/ Nicole

    Drama queen that I am, I would love to have the opportunity to speak to many, to hope to touch all those lives with my own struggles and ineptitude. The small things in life are far more terrifying to me than the thought of being able to address a crowd. But the Lord knows me and I think He keeps me hidden. After all, He didn’t allow me to write my first novel (even though I’d written all my life) until I was well into my 40s. It’s not that I don’t credit Him with it all or know every which way that ANYTHING of value in me is due to and because of Him. It’s just that I love the spotlight. It affirms me. And He desires me to hold onto His affirmations and trust they are enough. Even when and especially when I feel completely insignificant in His kingdom.
     
    Good comments. And, Mary, you personify humility and straight-shooting. You’re a gem.

    • http://www.marydemuth.com Mary DeMuth

       Thanks for your kind words, Nicole.

  • http://www.jmlalonde.com Joe Lalonde

    One of the biggest problems with Christian celebrity is that their failures are overexposed. We’re all human and will fail. We know that. But we “love” to see people fall and watch their descent, especially the celebrities.

    • http://www.marydemuth.com Mary DeMuth

       That’s very true. Well said. This would make a great kernel of a blog post.

  • Dorci

    I’d never want to be famous either.  Thankfully, writing a little Christian devotional blog, I think I’m safe.  :O)  I take one look around the internet and read articles targeting Christians (Kirk Cameron comes to mind) and see how angry and vindictive people can get now.  It’s scary.  You say one thing that hits people the wrong way and suddenly you’re getting death threats.  Now, that’s why I wouldn’t WANT to be famous.  Seems everybody’s goal anymore is to be famous.  For anything.  As a Christ-follower, that’s not my aim.  My aim to try to obey the Lord. It’s up to Him if that ever brought me any notoriety.  And if it did, I’d think He’d give me the strength to deal with any persecution that might come of it.  I think the days in the so-called trenches are what give us the strength for anything that comes in the future.  But I want God’s success, not the world’s.  And that’s to love Him and obey Him and fulfill my purpose.  What He chooses to do with that is up to Him. 

    • http://www.marydemuth.com Mary DeMuth

       What beautiful words, Dorci. Thanks for sharing your heart here.

  • http://juliesunne.com/ Julie Sunne

    Good thoughts, Mary. I agree with Rachel that others who have “made” it, especially in a Christian venue, seem holier to us. We imagine their family lives as fairy tale, their work as never dull or difficult, and of course, no financial issues–as if they have the creme de la creme of life. We want to draw close, to be noticed.
    Rewinding to remember the original intent behind our writing, our ministry, will be helpful in remaining humble.

    • http://www.marydemuth.com Mary DeMuth

       Ah yes, let me assure you (not that I’m famous), that my family is not living in fairy tale land. :)

  • rachturner

    I think we gravitate toward the spectacular because somewhere in our minds we believe that Christian celebrities have it all together – they’ve got it all figured out (when truthfully most of them will fully admit they are just as in need of God’s grace as the rest of us).  We believe that by associating with them or trying to mimic their behavior, we can become “holy” as they seem to be.  What we forget is that we are often only seeing the good side, the up side, the “on” side of them.  We don’t see their daily struggles and frustrations.  We don’t hear their fears and their tear-stained conversations with God.  We just see the polish and shine and wish that some of it would rub off on us so we could be better Christians.  There’s also a little bit of jealousy in there – we want to be known they way they are known, welcomed the way they are embraced by so many, and admired by hundreds and thousands of people.  We want to feel significant, like them.  If only we could all accept that we ARE known by the only ONE who truly matters and our significance comes from being a child of the King!  :)

    • http://www.marydemuth.com Mary DeMuth

       Such good words, Rachel. You should write a blog post about this.

      • http://rachturner.wordpress.com/ Rachel Turner

        Thank you, Mary. I had that same thought!  :)

        • http://www.marydemuth.com Mary DeMuth

           Do it! :)

  • http://www.lifeofasteward.com Loren Pinilis

    I remember hearing John Piper address this issue. He said that seeking to be famous is not a good thing, but that it is good to seek to have influence. If you truly see yourself as spreading a message that can change lives for the better, why would anyone want to hide that? Of course, remaining humble throughout the process will inevitably be difficult. But I don’t think it’s wrong to desire the ability to spread a good message far and wide.

    • http://www.marydemuth.com Mary DeMuth

       I like that distinction, Loren. Influence sounds much better than fame anyway! :)

  • Myrtlebeachgirl2007

    This is SO timely for me. I’ve been watching the hype over the Hunger Games series (and have been swept up in it, to a degree, since I’ve read and loved the books), and was thinking about how much Suzanne Collins’ life must be full tilt, crazy, out of control right now. I asked myself just last night, as I lay awake thinking about my own writing hopes and dreams, “What if a book I wrote went that big?” Well, my first answer was that the Lord must mean it to. I mean, I HAVE handed my writing future over to Him. BUT…the thought REALLY scared me. Could I handle it? Do I even want that life? Is there room for humbleness in great notoriety? What would mean more to me in the end– fame or faith? I say this because I know myself. Fame is tempting. Right now, as I sit in the obscurity of my little kitchen, tapping away at my stories, I am happy. Do I want lots of people to be influenced for Christ by my work? Absolutely! Do I want to be a household name? I’m just not so sure…

    • http://www.marydemuth.com Mary DeMuth

       And thankfully God knows how much we can handle. When I tally the books I’ve written in various venues, I’m over 20 now, and not one has “hit” it. God is in control.

  • Steve Miller

    Dean Koontz wrote into one of his novel’s characters that a novelist soon learns that people want spectacle. I see that with the Romans and their gladiators and I see it with Americans and their movies. There’s an aura around creative people who can create such spectacle. A writer has that creative ability. She’s “someone” in our culture.
    I’m not as close as your prayer team, of course, but I’ve never seen that in you. In fact, I have a distinct memory of you not liking a joke I made about it once. While I think it’s good to remain humble in the face of notoriety, I also think we can be pleased by doing well in the spotlight.

    • http://www.marydemuth.com Mary DeMuth

       Sure, it’s cool to be thrilled that your work is recognized and that it’s had an impact, but I try not to let it get to my head. I receive emails from folks who have been changed by my words (entirely humbling), but I try not to re-read what they say. I thank them and move on. Otherwise I might camp on praise instead of take a moment to shift it back to Jesus.

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