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Guest Post: Ashley Pichea. Making the Most of Every Opportunity

15 Comments 02 April 2011

I have the privilege of featuring Ashley Pichea today as my first Saturday guest blogger. What a privilege. I think you’ll enjoy her story.


I walked into the store. I had a few groceries I needed to pick up, but mostly I was there to complete an assignment for class. We were to interview three random strangers, asking them what they thought about God.


It sounded easy enough, after all, I talk to hundreds of strangers every day on my blog, challenging them to go deeper in their walks with the Lord.


Walking up to the checkout lane and wanting to complete my assignment, I zeroed in on a lady who could be my first interviewee. But suddenly, I started to feel awkward about the conversation I was about to have.


How do I ask a total stranger to answer some questions about God for a class I’m taking? What if she looks at me funny? Or worse, what if she refuses to answer my questions?


Struck by my fear of rejection and my foolish pride, the questions remained silent – I chickened out.

Instead of talking to her about God, I struck up a conversation about the weather, the age of my children, and other “safe” topics. It wasn’t an issue of my ability to strike up and carry on a conversation with a stranger. It was all about my fear of being rejected as a follower of Christ.

Only as I finished checking out and headed for the car did I hear her say, “God bless you.”


Immediately, the guilt sunk in.


She would have been completely open to talking about God. It should have been an easy confidence-building conversation. Instead, I let my pride get the best of the situation.

I avoided one of the most important conversations that I could ever have with another human being, based solely on my fear and pride.


“Realizing that our time for ministry is growing shorter every day, Christians should take advantage of every opportunity.” {J. Carl Laney}


Hiding behind my keyboard and computer screen is easy. I don’t have to see the rejection of those who dislike my message.

It’s real life, though, where the rubber meets the road. Learning to acknowledge that it is not me that others reject when they reject my message – it is Christ – is not easy for me to do.


I’m a people-pleaser, and I struggle with self-worth.


I must daily find my value and worth in who I am in Christ, or I will never have the courage to share His love with those who need it most – the ones I meet on a daily basis.

What about you? Do you clam-up when afforded the opportunity to share the gospel with a stranger? What about with a friend, neighbor, or co-worker? Are you willing to face rejection and share your message, knowing that ultimately it is not you that is being rejected, but Christ? What opportunities have you taken advantage of lately?

Ashley Pichea <http://blog.ashleypichea.com/about-me>  is a wife and mom (2.5 year old boy and a 4 year old girl), as well as being a blogger, an online student (pursuing an MA in Ministry), and actively involved in her local church’s various ministries. Her blog, L.I.F.E: Living Intentionally By Faith Everyday <http://blog.ashleypichea.com/> , has become a place of ministry to women with a purpose of encouraging women with the Word of God, and she is the co-founder of the 3 in 30 Challenge <http://facebook.com/3in30> . Ashley strives daily to find her identity in Christ, and she encourages you to connect with her on Facebook <http://facebook.com/lifebyashleypichea>  and Twitter <http://twitter.com/apichea> .

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  • http://janicejohnson.wordpress.com/ Janice

    Well put, Ashley, and BOY, can I relate to clamming up! This post is a keeper.

    • http://blog.ashleypichea.com Ashley Pichea

      Thanks, Jan! It is definitely hard to step out of one’s comfort zone, even for the sake of the gospel. Praying for boldness for all of us!

  • Sharon O

    Good job, this is a wonderful idea I might try to integrate often as I shop or browse around town. Some people love to share depending on who. thanks

    • http://blog.ashleypichea.com Ashley Pichea

      We never know what the person in line in front of/behind us needs to hear that day. Sometimes it might just be a simple smile that they need, and other times they may need to hear of the love of Jesus. May we be sensitive and open to the leading of the Holy Spirit!

  • Ivonne Loving

    Great article! Congrats on your first post!!! You made me think of my reaction if I were placed in your shoes and my reaction if someone were to strike up a conversation about my faith. Great job! I consider myself an extrovert but when it comes to conversations I find to be personal I lose my voice. How would I feel if the shoe were on the other foot? We should be proud of our beliefs and convictions and not fear rejection and the only acceptance we should desire is our Lord’s. Wow, you gave me so much to think about this morning. Thanks Ashley!

  • Ivonne Loving

    Great article! Congrats on your first post!!! You made me think of my reaction if I were placed in your shoes and my reaction if someone were to strike up a conversation about my faith. Great job! I consider myself an extrovert but when it comes to conversations I find to be personal I lose my voice. How would I feel if the shoe were on the other foot? We should be proud of our beliefs and convictions and not fear rejection and the only acceptance we should desire is our Lord’s. Wow, you gave me so much to think about this morning. Thanks Ashley!

    • http://blog.ashleypichea.com Ashley Pichea

      I can totally relate to the feeling of being an extrovert turned introvert on matters of a personal nature. And nothing is more personal than my relationship with Jesus Christ! May we crave His acceptance, and not the acceptance of man, as we seek to follow His leading!

  • http://dressmytruth.blogspot.com Jeanine Byers Hoag

    Ashley, what a wonderful post!! I am an introvert, and am much better at responding than initiating, so I understand your hesitation all too well. But you know what? I think people can tell when they are talking to a Christian. I think one’s spirit shines through, and connection with another warm, kind human being can be valuable in and of itself. It might not get an assignment done, but it would sure add a blessing to someone’s day!

    Jeanine

    • http://blog.ashleypichea.com Ashley Pichea

      I would agree, Jeanine. I can often identify other believers and their love for God and others simply through their actions. May we all be a testimony of God’s grace in our everyday lives!

  • Anonymous

    Congrats on being the first guest post! And it is a good one! I have had the same struggles. I’m not very eloquent when it comes to conversation, especially “spontaneous” conversation. Give me a keyboard where I can think through my thoughts, or even a podium, any day. It’s called CONTROL. :) And being “safe”. I’ve had to trust that the Lord would put His words in my mouth, and that as I open it, He would fill it, in conversation. You’ve given much to think about!!!! Great job, Ashley!!!

    • http://blog.ashleypichea.com Ashley Pichea

      I agree… it is very much an issue of “control” for me. I struggle to trust God enough to “let go of the reins” and follow His lead. I am constantly learning that He is in control whether I acknowledge it or not, and life goes much “smoother” when I follow His lead!

  • http://undergodsmightyhand.blogspot.com Caroline

    Ashley, thank you so much for this honest, reflective post. I can relate some to your feelings. I sometimes become hesitant to boldly witness because I might “offend” someone. But, I have to remind myself this: they are not likely to really be offended by the Greatest Love, even if they reject Him and that love at first.

    Of course, Romans 1:16-17 comes to mind (“For I am not ashamed of the gospel…”), though it’s a reminder I need regularly!

    Also, how great that this woman ended up being a blessed reminder for you… and us! Thank you!

    • http://blog.ashleypichea.com Ashley Pichea

      “Offending” people with the gospel is definitely a struggle for me, but even Jesus said that the gospel IS offensive to those who don’t believe. It’s not our job to determine who will/won’t believe – we’re just commanded to tell them. May we all grow bolder in our witness for Him!

      • http://undergodsmightyhand.blogspot.com Caroline

        You are so right, Ashley. The gospel can be offensive to those who don’t believe, and convicting (thankfully) to all of us! I couldn’t get my words right in my previous comment; you said it much better. Though the gospel is loving, it takes us out of our comfort zones. Your “bolder in our witness” comment makes me think of 2 Timothy 4:2: “…be prepared in season and out of season…”

        Thank you for the discussion, Ashley!

        • http://blog.ashleypichea.com Ashley Pichea

          I often think of Colossians 4.3-4 when praying for missionaries, asking God to open doors for them that they “may speak forth the mystery of Christ” and that they “may make it clear” when they speak. When we remember that we, too, are missionaries in our circles of influence, we ought to pray this for ourselves, and be willing to follow the leading of the Holy Spirit in our conversations with others. How many times He had led me to talk about Christ, and yet so seldom I obey. May we all be obedient and sensitive to His leading!

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