Find joy today, Heal from the past

Grow: Do Risky Things

33 Comments 09 August 2012

I’ve wanted a tattoo for many years. More than five. Initially I wanted a Celtic cross on my wrist, but eventually I camped on Jesus. So simple. A great reminder of who I love so, so much.

The problem? Needles.

I’d worked through the Leviticus issue many years prior, but that paled in comparison to the poking needles into my body deliberately issue.

When I was younger, nurses had to chase me around the room to give me a shot. They held me down while I screamed like an attacked bunny (Click here to hear a bunny holler). It wasn’t a fun situation. For anyone.

Thankfully I don’t bunny-scream now. But I do fret. I’m not one to willingly let someone inflict pain on me.

But on our vacation to Destin, I’d had enough of my bellyaching. I researched places, found one, made an appointment and actually fulfilled it. (Later my kids and hubby said they were shocked that I went through with it.)

The skinny? Not as bad as I thought. Less than 8 minutes of cat-scratching pain, but quite tolerable.

The best part? How I felt afterward. Such elation! I’d conquered a fear. Did something a bit crazy! In the aftermath, I felt invincible and joy-filled. It made me realize that so much of my life is held back in fear.

Is that the way with you too? You don’t do adventurous things because you prefer what is known? I agree. Comfort and known things are very sweet. The problem is that no one grows without risk.

In Ghana, we did door to door evangelism. To be honest, I was terrified. But I did it. And God did amazing things despite my fear. He encouraged others through me. He met me in my fear. He helped me overcome. And I had the privilege of seeing the gospel in power.

Q4u: What one thing have you wanted to do (or felt prompted by God to do) that you’re afraid to try? What holds you back?

BTW, the font I used for Jesus is called Nilland.

Resonate with this post? Want more?

Sign up for Mary’s monthly Live Uncaged ezine {free!} and get the free ebook 12 Steps to Impossible Joy.

Be Sociable, Share!
  • http://www.facebook.com/people/Celeste-Martin-Vaughan/100001526411830 Celeste Martin Vaughan

    Too funny that I was asking your opinion on tattoos when my daughter wanted to get one in Destin while we were on vacation…your response was,”I’m probably not the best one to ask since I’m probably getting one today.” And you were in Destin too! I love the tattoo you chose, but so far we are still ink free (she does have another hole in her ear, though!)

  • Donna Norton

    Love your tatoo! My daughter turns 21 next month and wanted to celebrate by the both of us going out to get tatoos! I got “peace” in hebrew on my wrist and she got “love” in hebrew on her calf. It was such a special moment together. And of course, I had to promise my 17 year old I’d do it again with her too!

    • http://www.marydemuth.com Mary DeMuth

      THat’s very fun, Donna.

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=702224366 Heather ‘Shaw’ Riggleman

    I did the same thing this year, 3 weeks ago, I got the word ‘redeemed’ on my wrist. :-)

    • http://www.marydemuth.com Mary DeMuth

      Sweet!

  • http://twitter.com/leighahudson Leigh Hudson

    Mary,
    I took a risk and applied for two book launch teams & got on both! The fear begins to shrink once I face my fear because I’m no longer “stuck”. It’s like taking a risk gives me momentum to take more risks!
    Thanks!
    Leigh A Hudson

    • http://www.marydemuth.com Mary DeMuth

      So glad you did, because I will benefit from your amazingness!

  • http://www.facebook.com/helen.g.washington Helen Gaskins Washington

    Mary,
    I love your tatoo!
    Over the last couple of years, God has had me speak in public. Something that I have always hated and feared. Two were at memorial services for my grandparents to represent our family. Two other times were at church. God and I talked a lot about this and what it came down to was hearing God ask me why I didn’t want to speak. My response was that I didn’t like how nervous I felt leading up to the talk and during it. His question was…could you risk feeling nervous for a short time for me? How could I say no. In each time, He met my weakness and fear and replaced it with His strength and power. Each time it was Him speaking not me. He ministered where I felt inadequate and shaky. I had never experienced that level of joy during speaking before. He changed my vocabulary from I don’t like public speaking to we are working on public speaking together. If I had never risked, I would never have experienced the rush of His indwelling Spirit. Life giving and Life changing!

    • http://www.marydemuth.com Mary DeMuth

      That is an amazing story, Helen! Thanks for sharing it. You definitely need to write a blog post or an article about your experience. It would encourage so many.

  • Janet

    Mary- for me, this year my risk will be doing my first 1/2 Marathon in Long Beach in October. I also found that you are a runner- so I appreciate your encouragement and a new way of looking at running. I’ve never been a runner, so I’m a little scared but excited, too.
    I’ve also wanted a tatoo, and I think for me, the risk there would be risking judgement, as I used to judge those with tatoos. God is funny that way, as he often “helps” me to see the other person’s perspective by putting me in the shoes of the ones I’ve judged. Gotta love those lessons from the Lord!
    Love & blessings to you!

    • http://www.marydemuth.com Mary DeMuth

      Janet, you are my hero! I’m doing my first one in December, so please take notes for me. (I’m scared).

  • http://twitter.com/abbysnews Abby Van Wormer

    that is an awesome tattoo! i am the same way, i hate needles, shots, anything poking me, anything that inflicts pain. you were brave to do that and conquer that fear!

    • http://www.marydemuth.com Mary DeMuth

      Thanks Abby. It wasn’t as painful as I thought it would be.

  • http://www.love-laugh-learn.com/ Deanna

    I so much want to live like this, but my life is so “plain vanilla”. :)
    Lord, pleeeeeze show me what risky things I can do that will color my life and bring a smile to your face!

    • http://www.marydemuth.com Mary DeMuth

      Go Deanna! Start small, like vanilla with sprinkles.

      • http://www.love-laugh-learn.com/ Deanna

        Haha, I can do that!

  • http://www.newequus.wordpress.com/ Mindy @ New Equus

    I don’t think it’s fear so much as the feeling of not “enough”…I’m not smart enough, I don’t have enough _____, I’m not good enough. Each time I get past this is a small victory, but there are no shortage of battles to fight!

    • http://www.marydemuth.com Mary DeMuth

      That’s certainly a battle many of us face in our minds. Truth? You’ll never be enough. Only God is.

  • DIane

    I have found getting to a certain age is forcing me to look at my life and things I haven’t done because of fear. ( a tatoo is not one of them). :) I could feel such regret and hopelessness; that waiting has been all my life. I think I could be more positive about serious writing if I had support from family. The challenge to forget criticism of the past (parent) and move on is undaunting. Finally at almost 60 I have left that behind.
    But sometimes I am parylized by lack of encouragement. . It seems I go 2 steps forward and 4 steps back. And I work nearly 30 hrs. a week… I’d love it if you could pray for me. I want so much to do what God has for me.

    • http://www.newequus.wordpress.com/ Mindy @ New Equus

      Diane, I would like to pray for you, too. I know that free time is precious when you work (I work full time outside my house) but I have found that the things that mean the most to me, I always find time to do…no matter what. So carve out that time on your calendar to do what God has asked…make an appointment with yourself and Him. I’m praying that you find the encouragement you need when you need it. I’m praying that God touches you and heals your hurts so you can take that wonderful path He has laid out before you and not look back!

    • http://www.marydemuth.com Mary DeMuth

      Go Diane, go! (Can you hear the cheerleading in my voice?) Every new little choice is a victory. Choose one small, risky thing a day and do it, then chronicle your journey in a journal. Then look back on your year in awe. God will do amazing things through you.

  • http://www.danapittman.com/ Dana Pittman

    This is a particular type of event I’ve been prompted to do. No one showing up (i.e., rejection). Not having a large enough audience (i.e., rejection). Me…(i.e. fear). But I’m praying over it. That God’s will be my only focus and desire.

    • http://www.marydemuth.com Mary DeMuth

      And I’ve found that even showing up when no one else does actually strengthens my faith because I found the strength to do it. :)

      • http://www.danapittman.com/ Dana Pittman

        Mary, this makes me so uncomfortable. :)

  • http://www.triplebraidedlife.com/ Brenda @TripleBraided

    I’m desperately afraid of needles, too! But I just wrote a post talking about fear and that it can’t be my reason for not making decisions. Your post captured that beautifully!! As far as what holds me back – not knowing the next steps to take. If I had a step-by-step plan I think I would do it. For me it’s not just the doing it, but first the knowing what exactly to do first, then second, and so on. :-)

    • http://www.marydemuth.com Mary DeMuth

      That’s a good point. But for me, that fear makes me not do it. Sometimes I’ve had to simply not know the plan and plunge in. :)

  • http://www.jmlalonde.com Joe Lalonde

    That’s awesome you were able to overcome a fear. Getting a tattoo is a huge decision to make but the process wasn’t too bad, right? Mine felt like a sunburn being scratched.

    • http://www.marydemuth.com Mary DeMuth

      That’s a great description of how it feels.

  • http://twitter.com/joannamuses joanna

    Well done on overcoming that fear! I’ve been plotting getting a tattoo for a while and even have two designs picked out but I haven’t managed to be bold enough to do it yet.

    • http://www.marydemuth.com Mary DeMuth

      You can do it!

  • http://www.facebook.com/people/Laura-Krämer/100001481863376 Laura Krämer

    Love this Mary

    • http://www.marydemuth.com Mary DeMuth

      Mine is pierced too! :)

      Good point about saying no as a risk too. Well put.

      • http://www.facebook.com/people/Laura-Krämer/100001481863376 Laura Krämer

        Thank you.
        And… yeah, I thought I saw some sparkle on you. ;)

Get a Free eBook!

Subscribe to the Live Uncaged ezine & get 12 Steps to Impossible Joy, a 50-page ebook, free!

* indicates required

Next Speaking Engagement:

Latest:

Mary’s Story

Awesome Sponsors:

Connected to:

© 2013 Mary DeMuth.

Site by Author Media.