We all want to live better stories, don’t we? I know I do. Part of discerning your new story is looking back on your past and figuring out patterns that were destructive and led you down frustrating paths. And it’s also helpful to celebrate the wins too. Let’s just...
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Is Your Burnout Compensation for a Parent’s Lack of Love?
One of my favorite authors is Mark Buchanan. In a recent blog post, he shared about the life of Eustace Conway (a review of the book The Last American Man by Elizabeth Gilbert.) Conway lived an amazing life, and he produced and accomplished much. But this quote...
Why I Wrote We Too
Today my book We Too: How the Church Can Respond Redemptively to the Sexual Abuse Crisis releases, and I am excited! Why? Because it is my sincere prayer that this book would challenge Christian leaders to think differently about the hurting people in our pews. Jesus...
Prayer Requests
Hello dear ones! I have not died. I'm sorry it's been a bit chirp-chirp around here, but I've been working crazily on finishing up wetoo.org. New Book Release! I also launched HEALING EVERY DAY a few weeks ago! Next Book Release: In addition, I'm working very...
ANONYMOUS: From someone injured by the church
Someone sent me this post, and I felt so strongly about it, I decided to post it. These are not my words. They are the words of someone who has been hurt deeply by the church. There are many of you who can relate to this post, and I pray it blesses you. ... Though I...
Feeling Unloved and Unseen? Two ways to be prayed for.
I can't tell you how many times I've received correspondence like this: I'm sure you hear it every day, all day, how your personal prayers seem to be just what we need for that particular time or season in someone's life. & I am no different on this. This last...
CNN interview about #MeToo
I'm grateful for the opportunity to talk with Carol Costello of Across American on CNN where we talked about #metoo and #churchtoo. For a helpful resource page for pastors and ministry leaders, click here. And for more information about the #Forsuchatimeasthis...
VIDEO: Abuse, Jesus and Church
Here is a compilation video of portions of the talk I gave at the #forsuchatimeasthis rally. You can read the entire transcript here. It is my sincere prayer that the church would become both good shepherds and good samaritans. For a beautifully written piece about...
The Abused: The Church Must Do Better
This is the speech I gave today at the For Such a Time as This rally. There is an unspoken and seldom articulated crisis within the SBC (Southern Baptist Convention) and the wider circles of the evangelical church. In the sunset of the attractional church model, we...
Happy National Day of Prayer
On this National Day of Prayer, what better way to celebrate than to be prayed for? If you feel broken and needy and maybe even have a hard time asking others to pray for you, here's a safe way to actually be prayed for every day this year. To do that, go here: MY...
Sexual Abuse and Porn – A Correlation
I've been meaning to write this post a long time, but as you can imagine, it's not exactly the easiest can of worms to open. I'll start with my own story, a painful one to admit, told stark on the page of my memoir, Thin Places. Early on, my father dulls me to the...
Are You Fatherless? That time #thisisus Triggered Me
When Jack died on This is Us this week, I didn't expect to tear up. Not that I'm an emotionless robot, but it's been 40 years of fatherlessness for me, and I expected to be ho hum during the episode. But the tears erupted. And I once again knew this: you never outgrow...