Heal from the past

Sexual Abuse and Porn – A Correlation


I’ve been meaning to write this post a long time, but as you can imagine, it’s not exactly the easiest can of worms to open. I’ll start with my own story, a painful one to admit, told stark on the page of my memoir, Thin Places. Early on, my father dulls me to the dangers […]

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Are You Fatherless? That time #thisisus Triggered Me


When Jack died on This is Us this week, I didn’t expect to tear up. Not that I’m an emotionless robot, but it’s been 40 years of fatherlessness for me, and I expected to be ho hum during the episode. But the tears erupted. And I once again knew this: you never outgrow your need […]

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Jesus loved me when…


I’ve been thinking a lot about my brokenness lately, how flawed I am, how confused and difficult I’ve been in the past, how there have been far too many times I’ve been dramatic in my life. I am far too hard on myself. My friends say so. My husband and kids, too. I introspect. And […]

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You’re not Doomed


Recent studies highlight the effects of childhood trauma, abuse, neglect and sexual abuse on people long after they experienced the events. Long into adulthood, childhood victims share some common traits: Prone to develop depression Cognitive distortion (seeing the world as a dangerous place) Tendency to entertain suicide Anxiety disorders Physical illness Difficulty in relationships Control […]

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Weinstein: One Good Thing


Jogging through my  neighborhood this morning, I spied a bird’s nest in a crepe myrtle only because its leaves were in the process of shedding. It made me think of exposure. I would never have noticed the nest had it not been for the advent of autumn. All that to say, sometimes the leaves have […]

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Sexual Abuse Resources


If you’re struggling in the aftermath of #MeToo, I have some free and nearly free resources to offer you. Book Resources: This is FREE on Kindle (a novel, not graphic, about sexual abuse recovery) Not Marked– it also has my husband Patrick’s perspective: This is my memoir, Thin Places, where I share my story in […]

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The Problem of Misplaced Outrage


When there is abuse of power, things get wonky. And wrong. We’ve had this experience before, haven’t we? A high profile person, a man in power, who demeans, abuses, coerces, silences and marginalizes women–gets away with unlawful behavior for years. His influence is so strong and fierce, it’s taken a decade for folks to tell […]

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That Time I Crashed Like Elijah


Hi *|FNAME|*, The second annual (and possibly last annual) Restory Conference is finished. My friend Doctor Ralph from New Zealand reminded me of a good story today after I’d sent my prayer team a rather gloomy email about how I felt in the aftermath of Restory. (The conference actually went very well, but for whatever […]

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What You’ll Experience at the Restory Conference


I get a lot of questions about the Restory Conference. Who is it for? What will happen when I get there? Why should I go? (They don’t ask that outright, but it underlies their other questions). Are there discounts? What if I’m broke and want to go? How can I support this even if I […]

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The 5 things you CAN control in a broken relationship


In anticipation of the Restory Conference coming up, I’ve written a post about the helplessness (and need for control) we may feel when navigating a difficult relationship. This year’s conference will deal with your relationships, and I’m SO excited to share some amazing stories of people who have overcome in this area of their lives. […]

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