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Ministry: Are you in obscurity? Popularity? Rejection?

39 Comments 02 September 2010

Ministry: Are you in obscurity? Popularity? Rejection?

Yesterday I read through part of Matthew in my new ESV Study Bible. Oh how I have a crush on that Bible! Anyway, one of the notes on Matthew 4:12-25 struck me. It says this: “The duration of Jesus’ ministry has traditionally been thought to have been three years: a year of obscurity, a year of popularity, and a year of increasing rejection.”

It got me thinking of my own cycles of ministry, and how this transition might be helpful in understanding where we are today. Certainly our time in France was one of increasing rejection. The whole time we were there, it seemed, we experienced more and more spiritual warfare (in alarming intensity) and over the top rejection. I know this sounds like I’m exaggerating, but trust me on this.

Prior to France both Patrick and I labored quietly, in obscurity. We loved folks. We made lots of mistakes. We parented our kids. Not much notice came our way. Then Patrick started seminary, and the tide started turning toward popularity. It’s not that he won some sort of “cool guy on campus” award. Not at all. But we found a good church, and he started leading a Sunday school class. And we began to see fruit. Lives changing. People encountering Jesus.

And when we raised support, the Lord saw fit to make that process pretty easy. A few months after graduation, wide-eyed and happy, we moved to France. And then our period of darkness came.

It’s taken us four years to crawl out of the pain, to heal from what happened. We will both probably walk with a limp from this point on. We’ve spent our years back in Texas in obscurity for a time. And now Patrick’s teaching a Life Group, and we’re seeing lives changed. Maybe because of what we experienced in France we’ll be able to face the rejection phase with more grace, grit, tenacity, and endurance. Maybe this time we’ll be able to laugh and choose joy. Maybe we won’t let the circumstances of our lives dominate our moods. I hope so.

It’s interesting too how my writing career and ministry have followed this Jesus pattern. I wrote for ten years in obscurity, writing miles and miles of unpublished words. I’m not sure that I’m in the popularity stage, but in terms of publishing, I have. I’ve published. I have an agent. I’ll (so far) continue to publish. I’ve been meeting with a coach who has great discernment. Yesterday she said something like, “God often brings me into people’s lives right about at the time they’re going to go through a new transition.” The pessimistic side of me worries, “Does this mean the rejection’s coming?” But I do know that my career has shifted this summer. That my influence has changed. That honing my message has opened doors for me. So I wait. And wonder. And cling to Jesus through what might come.

Mind if I pray for you?

Jesus, for those toiling in obscurity, bring Your kingdom perspective. Help them know You are working through them in hidden, secret ways. Help them not lose heart and grow weary. Give them tenacity and perseverance. For those in the midst of popularity, I pray You’d bless them with perspective. You are the God who gives and takes away. Blessed be Your name. May they withstand this trial of popularity with grace and humility. May any fame that comes their way become an avenue for Your fame. And for those who are walking through rejection right now, I pray for relief. I pray You would show up in secret and open ways. You have deeper fellowship and communion with those who suffer for Your sake. lift up their eyes, their heads, their hearts. Send encouragers. Bring relief. Show up. Amen and Amen.

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  • Kathy Ponce

    Hi Mary, thank you for this post.  I just stumbled upon your blog today and you’ve inspired me to revisit my writer’s call again. http://iwritetobelieve.blogspot.com

    • http://www.marydemuth.com Mary DeMuth

      I’m so glad the post helped!

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  • Ginnydodson

    my husband and I were just talking about this tonight….how, right now, I would much rather be in obscurity….it is too much of a temptation for me to find my identity in being popular, needed, in the know, etc. And then fall horribly when the rejection does come….because it does. God knows what I am needing right now….Right now, my ministry has been behind the scenes so to speak, and I LOVE it….knowing that those who call me for encouragement or counsel are really seeking HIM and it is in HIM that I can give them what they need….it is fulfilling in a new way…a way that I never really thought it would be…there is a peacefulness and ease in it…I am grateful for this season. and taking it as it comes. and trying to stay in the moment of what He has.

    • Anonymous

      It’s a huge temptation for me too. I’m glad you’re doing well to encourage others. Keep that up.

  • Tiffany Demien

    Mary. You are such a blessing!! I think every one of your posts is relevant to me in some way. I LOVE the style, format, and personality that is so evident throughout this blog! I’m hooked and trust many others will be soon! Blessings :)

    • Anonymous

      Thanks so much, Tiffany!

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100000041869202 Kristen Stieffel

    @Tami — I feel the same way. There are places where I'm popular, and places where I'm rejected, but in most places I'm just obscure.

    Mary, thank you for this beautiful prayer. It brought tears to my eyes. (OK, those who know me know that's not hard to do, but still…) I'm printing this one out and putting it in my prayer journal.

    • http://www.marydemuth.com marydemuth

      What a blessing that my prayer will be 'published' in your prayer journal, Kristen.

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100000041869202 Kristen Stieffel

    @Tami — I feel the same way. There are places where I'm popular, and places where I'm rejected, but in most places I'm just obscure.

    Mary, thank you for this beautiful prayer. It brought tears to my eyes. (OK, those who know me know that's not hard to do, but still…) I'm printing this one out and putting it in my prayer journal.

    • http://www.marydemuth.com marydemuth

      What a blessing that my prayer will be 'published' in your prayer journal, Kristen.

  • Eyvonne

    This is so timely. I fear we are entering the rejection phase. My husband is the pastor of a small church, and we've seen enough lives changed that the church must now change to meet the needs of those new believers. I'm not sure they're willing to do it. The temptation to throw up our hands and walk away is overwhelming at times. Thank you for this larger perspective on the rhythms of life in ministry.

    • http://www.marydemuth.com marydemuth

      May Jesus lift your head, Eyvonne and give you hope in this church journey.

  • Eyvonne

    This is so timely. I fear we are entering the rejection phase. My husband is the pastor of a small church, and we've seen enough lives changed that the church must now change to meet the needs of those new believers. I'm not sure they're willing to do it. The temptation to throw up our hands and walk away is overwhelming at times. Thank you for this larger perspective on the rhythms of life in ministry.

    • http://www.marydemuth.com marydemuth

      May Jesus lift your head, Eyvonne and give you hope in this church journey.

  • http://tamiboesiger.blogspot.com Tami Boesiger

    I often feel I'm living through the obscurity and popularity phases at the same time. I'm popular in my own little corner of the world, but my impact stops there so I'm basically popular in obscurity.

    Your post made me think this morning, Mary–one of MY favorite things. Thanks. Enjoy the weekend.

    • http://www.marydemuth.com marydemuth

      So glad it helped you think, Tami!

  • http://tamiboesiger.blogspot.com Tami Boesiger

    I often feel I'm living through the obscurity and popularity phases at the same time. I'm popular in my own little corner of the world, but my impact stops there so I'm basically popular in obscurity.

    Your post made me think this morning, Mary–one of MY favorite things. Thanks. Enjoy the weekend.

    • http://www.marydemuth.com marydemuth

      So glad it helped you think, Tami!

  • jameswatkins

    Thanks, Mary. You have the gift of prayers!

    • http://www.marydemuth.com marydemuth

      Thanks Jim.

  • jameswatkins

    Thanks, Mary. You have the gift of prayers!

    • http://www.marydemuth.com marydemuth

      Thanks Jim.

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    I've enjoyed it too, Lynnda.

  • http://www.marydemuth.com marydemuth

    I've enjoyed it too, Lynnda.

  • Tina

    Hi Mary,
    Thank you so much for your blog and message that was delivered through it to me.

    I am in the rejection phase right now. It is a very painful thing to go through but I have come to realize that it is the best thing to have happened. How true, the more you live for the Lord the less popular you are.
    So being in the rejection phase is very hard and difficult and can get lonely! But I'm excited to see what lesson will come out of it from the Lord in the end. Wow! I can relate to almost everything I read from you today! Especially slander and losing a friend. Someday I will know the worth of it all! I know he will bring new friends along in his own way and in his timing. Praises, Glory and Honour to God! Sis in Christ Tina

    • http://www.marydemuth.com marydemuth

      I'm sure there will be great, heart-changing lessons, Tina! Keep going…

  • Tina

    Hi Mary,
    Thank you so much for your blog and message that was delivered through it to me.

    I am in the rejection phase right now. It is a very painful thing to go through but I have come to realize that it is the best thing to have happened. How true, the more you live for the Lord the less popular you are.
    So being in the rejection phase is very hard and difficult and can get lonely! But I'm excited to see what lesson will come out of it from the Lord in the end. Wow! I can relate to almost everything I read from you today! Especially slander and losing a friend. Someday I will know the worth of it all! I know he will bring new friends along in his own way and in his timing. Praises, Glory and Honour to God! Sis in Christ Tina

    • http://www.marydemuth.com marydemuth

      I'm sure there will be great, heart-changing lessons, Tina! Keep going…

  • http://twitter.com/brockhenning @brockhenning

    Hi Mary, I stumbled across this post via Twitter just now. Hits me right where I'm at on the journey. I had just written a poem this morning (prior to reading this) of a conversation with obscurity, weariness, and as my poem stated, "And my heart? Don't go there." Anyhow, just glad I saw this today, and thanks for your prayer at the end. Those words are reaching.

    • http://www.marydemuth.com marydemuth

      Thanks so much, Brock. I pray you'll find some extra grace and strength today.

  • http://twitter.com/brockhenning @brockhenning

    Hi Mary, I stumbled across this post via Twitter just now. Hits me right where I'm at on the journey. I had just written a poem this morning (prior to reading this) of a conversation with obscurity, weariness, and as my poem stated, "And my heart? Don't go there." Anyhow, just glad I saw this today, and thanks for your prayer at the end. Those words are reaching.

    • http://www.marydemuth.com marydemuth

      Thanks so much, Brock. I pray you'll find some extra grace and strength today.

  • http://writingwhilethericeboils.blogspot.com/ Debbie Maxwell Allen

    Hi Mary-

    Just wanted to let you know that I featured you on my blog today. Thank you so much for all you do to encourage writers!

    -Debbie Maxwell Allen http://bit.ly/9un9EJ

    • http://www.marydemuth.com marydemuth

      Thanks for that post, Debbie. How sweet.

  • http://writingwhilethericeboils.blogspot.com/ Debbie Maxwell Allen

    Hi Mary-

    Just wanted to let you know that I featured you on my blog today. Thank you so much for all you do to encourage writers!

    -Debbie Maxwell Allen http://bit.ly/9un9EJ

    • http://www.marydemuth.com marydemuth

      Thanks for that post, Debbie. How sweet.

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